Do Sponsored Children Have Expectations of Their Sponsors?

child expectations Pastor Sam, the director of Immanuel Child Development Center in India, shares his feelings of gratefulness to sponsors — gratefulness for the vital role they play in the holistic development of children in poverty.

Here are his thoughts about a sponsor’s involvement in a child’s life.

Parental love is the first love a child receives. However, there are many children who are born orphans and many children whose parents desert them when they are still children.

Also, in many homes, parents end up fighting with each other and this leaves an impact on these little minds. The lives of the children become miserable when they don’t receive or experience love.

You play a major role in the development of children. You are instruments in the hands of God to demonstrate His care to children who don’t know what love is all about. When children receive no love at home, it’s common for them to seek from you the love they miss from their parents.

You help care for the all aspects of the welfare of the children — spiritual, educational, social, physical and financial. You help release children from poverty by giving them education and securing their life by helping bring them into local churches, thus raising them as good and responsible citizens of the society.

Not only that, your unceasing prayers for your sponsored children go a long way in granting the children a bright and prosperous future.

In developing countries like India, the role you play is extremely important. You are a great blessing to churches all over. Through you, churches grow. The church is able to go into places where once we were not able to. The church is able to influence the society.

The majority of churches in India are not in a position to raise funds. Most businesspeople and industrialists are not Christians. We rarely find them with a vision to help children. Hence, we depend on our brethren like you.

Even today, the Lord cries out with the same words that Isaiah heard, “Whom shall I send? And who will go for us?”

You are the ones who have responded to this call with the words “Here am I.” You are the ones who have responded to God’s commission.

And sponsored children do have expectations of you because of this. Though the children definitely feel highly obliged to you for the financial help and gifts, they also expect something more.

The children love to read the letters you send. The letters are a source of inspiration, love and encouragement for them. The letters gives them a deep sense of joy to know that somebody, in some corner of the world, remembers them and cares for them.

Through your letters, children understand your emotions and ambitions. You guide and counsel your sponsored children through the letters.

Every child longs to see his or her sponsor, at least once in lifetime, to see the face of the person who resides in some distant part of the world, and who loves, without being seen, and cares, sometimes more than the parents.

You also desire to see your sponsored children, and many times you never get this opportunity. However, even if you are not able to see the child in this world, you should be able to see the child in heaven. This should be the burning desire in your heart.

In order that this becomes a reality, you must regularly pray for your sponsored children and their spiritual growth. In this way, you are able to influence not only the life of the child alone, but also the entire family and society. The sponsored child becomes a powerful agent in days to come, influencing the society and nation. The child begins to be an advocate for other children in the society.

Sponsoring children in need enables one to discover the joy that comes from blessing someone else’s life! We may not be able to transform the entire world, but we can surely make a notable difference in the life of our sponsored children! It would give us a sense of fulfillment, of satisfaction to restore the true joy of childhood to the children.

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  1. Lindsey January 31, 2011

    I want to thank you specifically for this part:
    “You also desire to see your sponsored children, and many times you never get this opportunity. However, even if you are not able to see the child in this world, you should be able to see the child in heaven. This should be the burning desire in your heart.”

    My sponsor child recently asked me if I would ever visit her and I’ve been conflicted on how to answer. After reading that section, I knew. Thank you

  2. Michelle ~ Blogging from the Boonies January 31, 2011

    Please reach out and make the most of your letter writing ministry to your children. While the money is crucial to running the programs, it is your words of love and encouragement that let the child know they are important and loved. If you need letter writing inspiration, click my name in blue to check out my blog!

  3. Karin August 7, 2010

    This was inspiring and gave me new ideas of how to be more the sponsor God wants me to be!

  4. Peter July 18, 2010

    Thank you Pastor Sam. Indeed I am blessed by your sharing. I have just sponsored a child from India and my heart goes to him and his family. He is 5 and I want to be part of his growth to be a fine young man for God, serving his community and help others in need. Each day when I see his picture, I feel blessed myself. God is good!! I want to help him and his parents that God cares, no matter where they are. God Bless your ministry Pastor Sam!! 🙂

  5. Angela May 1, 2010

    Thank you Pastor Sam! Such words of encouragement to my heart! I’m pretty sure that my child, Ashvini, is a part of the Immanuel Child Development center that you lead! So wonderful to be able to see another face to pray for! I pray that you continue to persevere and serve our King and these precious children!

  6. Desiree April 6, 2010

    Thank you so much for this blog. I sponser 3 children in Rwanda, Kenya, and Bolivia and have been sponsering them for 3 months and have sent over 27 letters. I definitely don’t see myself stopping anytime soon! Letters are treasures to our children and we need to always let them know that we love them, we support them, and that we are praying for them. Thanks Compassion!

  7. Fran March 31, 2010

    These comments have given me the reassurance that my sponsorship really does matter. I have only received one letter from my sponsored child since last fall and sometimes you wonder if your sponsorship really is making a difference. Without some return correspondence I find it difficult to know what to write about.
    However, it is very humbling to realize the impact sponsorship can have on a child’s life a world away

  8. James February 28, 2010

    Thanks for the gentle reminder. I have discovered through my letter writing that it takes roughly three months to get a response so I have made it my mission to write at least one letter a month. When I do get a letter from my little precious one, I find myself hand writing one and e-mailing several more. I think I am just as excited to get a letter from my little one as I hope she is to get one from me.

  9. Michelle February 28, 2010

    My little girl lives with her grandparents. She has a sister that lives there too… I know her parents are divorced, but I was always wondering why she lived with her grandparents instead of a parent. It never occured to me that when a woman remarried, her husband might make her abandon her children!! I don’t get that… Just like I don’t understand how we can love our sponsored children more than their parents. That is so sad…

    I DO love her, though, and I will try and let her know that through the letters and small things I send. Wish I could go over and give her a great big hug and tell her in person that I love her…. 🙂

  10. Amy Wallace February 24, 2010

    Wow! I too was shocked that we may show more love to the children than their parents do. Thank you, thank you, thank you for posting this!

  11. Holly79 February 24, 2010

    Yet another great list of reasons for us to write regularly to our kids!

  12. Jill Foley February 23, 2010

    Thank you so much for sharing this with us…we all need to hear it!

  13. Marvin February 23, 2010

    This is a great post. I had the chance to visit the children we sponsor last year. Recently I received a very nice letter from the pastor. One thing he said that struck me…”you give life that we could give life that they will give life”. We help the church so they can help the children so someday they will help the community.
    Also for us men (sorry ladies) many of the children I saw including the ones we sponsor had a good relationship with mothers but fathers are often absent or drunk or gone. In the country I sponsor I was told it is common for fathers to abandon families…with no child support…. many have few positive male influencers. If the mothers get remarried the new father does not want anything to do with her children so they are often raised by the grandparents. One child we sponsor lives with the grandparents… the mother only visits but still loves her children.

    1. Shannon K November 8, 2010

      This is something I’ve been thinking about since I started sponsoring my first boy last month (my others have all been girls, but there were so many boys waiting 6+ months that I had to do something!). Manzi is 11 and lives with his mother and one sibling, and while I’m excited to be sponsoring him, I can’t help wishing for his sake that he had a male sponsor to provide the kind of influence you describe. I’ve been praying that a godly man in his community will take an interest in him and be a positive role model for him!

  14. Juli Jarvis February 23, 2010

    Thank you so much for all these excellent thoughts. I love the way you shared! And what a good point — that if we want to see these children in Heaven, we need to be praying for them.

  15. Gin February 23, 2010

    Wow. Just wow. I had to blog about this today. It has never occurred to me that *I* might love my children more than their parents. Never once. So much of this is stuff I know, but reading it today, it just hit home… thank you Pastor Sam – for redefining child sponsorship for me. Great post!

  16. Lindy February 23, 2010

    Thank you so much for publishing Pastor Sam’s comments here! His eloquent description of the children’s needs of what we can provide for them as sponsors should be in the hands of every sponsor and every potential sponsor!

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