Stop Feeling Like a Bad Sponsor for Not Writing

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had the following conversation …

What do you do?

Oh, I work at Compassion International.

I sponsor a child with Compassion!

Do you? That’s so great!

Yeah. I’m a terrible sponsor. I never write my child.

These conversations have taught me something very important.

Guilt is a waste if it doesn’t drive you toward action.

Stop Feeling Like a Bad Sponsor for not Writing

Let me explain. A few years ago I did something that hurt a dear friend of mine. I was careless with her emotions, and I immediately knew that what I had done was wrong. And I felt rightfully guilty.

But instead of letting the guilt move me toward action – toward apologizing and reconciling with this friend – I let myself sit in it. I held that big boulder of guilt in my lap and let it weigh me down.

Have you ever done that as a sponsor? You feel guilty for not writing a letter to the child you sponsor – a letter that, deep down, you know will bring joy and love to that sweet kid, and instead of letting that seed of guilt drive you to actually writing, you just let it grow.

I should have written already.

It’s been a month now!

It’s been six months, I’m too ashamed.

And on and on. Just like I did, you’ve let that guilt, and maybe a little drop of pride drive you deeper into what you felt guilty about in the first place.

So, I’m here to tell you. Stop sitting in your guilt.

You’re not a bad sponsor for not writing. Your financial investment is allowing a child or teen to develop life skills, receive education, have access to medical care and so much more. What you are doing is invaluable!

But this guilt we feel when we don’t write is natural because we know that building a relationship through letter writing is just as important for both us and the children we’re investing in.

When you start to feel bad about not writing, when you catch yourself saying you’re a “bad sponsor,” I want to challenge you to write that letter. Battle that guilt by doing the very thing you know will bring relief and joy.

Stop Feeling Like a Bad Sponsor for not Writing

Relief and joy. Those are the feelings I felt when I finally apologized to that friend. And today, our relationship is stronger because I stopped sitting in my guilt.

Your relationship with the child you’re investing in can be stronger too. You don’t even need to apologize. Just log in to your account, open up your Compassion App or pick up that pen, and write a letter.

And *poof* – your guilt will go away. And happiness will fill that space!

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21 Comments |Add a comment

  1. Lois October 31, 2017

    Hi,
    I’m currently writing to two kids we sponsor but can you direct to to where I can put my name down to a correspondent to someone whose sponsor isn’t into writing letters? I remember seeing some time ago that there are people who volunteer to write letters for those sponsors who don’t care to. I know the list and the wait to become a volunteer was long but I’d like to add my name to the list. Who knows, maybe in a couple of years my name will be up and I can be of help! Thank you!

    1. Janice Saxe May 25, 2018

      I would also like to add my name to the list of volunteers who write letters for other sponsors. I can guarantee at least one letter a month to the sponsor child.

      1. Shannon May 25, 2018

        Hi Janice! We would love to have you send letters of love and encouragement to one of our kiddos! Please email us with either your sponsor number, (if you are a current sponsor) or with your full name, full address and phone number. You may email us at socialmedia@compassion.com. Please also specify if you have any preferences on gender, age or country! 🙂 -Shannon

    2. Shannon November 1, 2017

      Hi lois!
      I would be happy to add you to our correspondent wait list! 🙂 Please send us an email at socialmedia@compassion.com with your sponsor number and any preferences you may have on age, gender, or country. Also, please know that the wait for a new correspondent writer is typically less than a few weeks, but if you would like additional kiddos there is more of an extended wait. We look forward to hearing from you! -Shannon

  2. Brenda salvador October 17, 2017

    Es muy lindo recibir una carta de tu padrino. Cuando era pequeña eso era lo que más anhelaba pero no paso nunca. Así que, los ánimo a que puedan escribir y enviar fotos eso es lo más bonito.. saber quien es esa persona tan bendecida que esta aportando mucho a esas vidas. Shalom♡

    1. Christina
      Christina October 19, 2017

      Brenda, gracias por tus amables palabras. Lamento mucho que no hayas recibido una carta cuando eras joven. Agradecemos su aliento a otros patrocinadores para que escriban a sus hijos. ¡Dios te bendiga!

  3. Kathy July 13, 2017

    I would like to know how to get pics an small clips of my sponsored child on that compassion app as I seen in reviews of app.. I have been with my sponsored child for almost four months an I have written her three or four times but would love to see what my child is doin in her home life the joy of her friends an family in everyday activity.. Thanks in advance..

    1. Christina Wilson
      Christina Wilson July 14, 2017

      Hi Kathy! Welcome to the Compassion family! We are so grateful that you have responded to God tugging your heart to sponsor sweet Genesis in Nicaragua. She is such a cutie! I completely understand your eagerness to receive more pictures, videos, and letters from your sweet girl. I am emailing you now with Genesis’ picture and more information about pictures and letters from Genesis :). Have a blessed day!

      1. Janice Saxe May 25, 2018

        I would also like to receive more pictures of my child, Saleymi GU044600258 and more information about her daily life and living conditions. Am I her only sponsor? If I send a family gift, does it go specially to her family? Thank you.

        1. Shannon May 25, 2018

          Hi Janice,
          We do update our children’s photos every two years, which you will get an update in the mail when these come out. It does look like your next update will be around August 2019. If you would like to receive more photos, the only way to do this is to send either a child or family gift of $60 or more. With one of these gifts, the money will be delivered to the church, and they will sit down with the child and their family to see what they feel is the bet use for the gift money. Our staff will then go purchase the items for the family and deliver the gifts to them. Roughly six months after the gift is given, you will receive a thank you note explaining what was purchased as well as a photo of the items. You child and/or a family member will be in this photo. Typically, your child will be in the photo but sometimes they are not, so it is never a guarantee, but I do rarely see a thank you photo without the child.
          Also, if you would like to know more about your child, we would encourage you to ask these questions in your letters. This is a wonderful way to build relationship and pray for one another’s needs! 🙂 Thank you again for your kind heart to choose to sponsor and all that you do! God bless you! -Shannon

      2. Carla Tye July 14, 2017

        We can get videos of our children?? Really truly? Please send me info about that, too. How exciting!

        1. Susan Sayler
          Susan Sayler July 17, 2017

          Hi Carla! Only some of the children have videos. If your child has a video, it can be found by entering your child’s ID number at the end of the following URL: http://mychild.info/ For example, a child with the number ID014500181 would be entered as: http://mychild.info/ID014500181.

  4. jose June 30, 2017

    so encouraging

  5. Cheyanne moore June 14, 2017

    What I like doing is when I take a picture of anything friends, family, fun things I have done, outside pictures it is a reminder to me to write my children. With the compassion app it is easy to upload pictures and write a letter to my children.

  6. Annalena June 14, 2017

    How often is writting often, what’s writting “to often”?
    Why I’m asking is as I’m writting my child every 1-2 months a letter. In between those letters the idea comes to my mind of sending a short note (only 3-4 lines, like a “I’m thinking of you!”). But so far I was not sure if this is a good idea or if it is causing to much extra work for Compassion? I mean, it’s not a real letter, just something that’d be nice to have.

    1. Savanaalah July 5, 2017

      I would recommend 6 a year to set as a minimum, and don’t set a maximum. I personally wrote 25 or so to my girl last year, but it really varies from person to person. Write as often as you want.

    2. Michelle whiting June 29, 2017

      I just went on a tour to meet my child in the DR. After seeing and meeting kids I know that they love any letter. Just a couple of lines is fine. “I’m thinking of you” lets your child know that you love them and care for them. I’ve been home 10 days and have already written my child 3 times! A bit much, maybe, but I want to keep up the relationship and connection that we have. So I say, write whenever you feel like it! Your child will feel your love through those letters!

    3. Christina Wilson
      Christina Wilson June 14, 2017

      Hi Annalena! Honestly, you may write as often as you like :). Our hearts for letter writing is to allow sponsors to develop loving and meaningful relationships with their children. Therefore, I do think that sending your full letters every 1-2 months is a wonderful way to do this. I also like your idea of sending little notes of love and encouragement in between if you feel led to :). We do ask that you please follow our letter guidelines and that your letters be no larger than 8 1/2″ x 11″ and no smaller than a business card. Thank you so much for responding to God tugging your heart to bless a child in poverty! We appreciate you!

  7. Diane Hollister June 13, 2017

    Just what I needed to hear! I’m just starting a relationship with a new sponsored child after my previous one had to leave the program. I’ve been thinking ever since that I’m going to do a better job of writing her because I was feeling guilty for not writing more to my other child. The devil even tried to get me to think that if I only had written her more, she might have stayed. So not true!! I’m done accepting the devil’s lies!! I now have a goal to write once a month to Carmen, but if life gets in the way and I’m unable to, I’m going to forgive myself, let it go…and write her a letter!!

  8. K June 13, 2017

    Ha! I feel I write too much, but honestly I got it down to once per month now by adding 100 kids, all different organizations. All hand letters, since to me it is the main joy both ways. One other large organization said I was over the 6 per year, and I moved my money elsewhere when I was able. As a sponsor the freedom to write is number 1. It is what keeps me engaged and bonded.

  9. Yvonne Reynolds June 13, 2017

    I love telling people about the Compassion app! I encourage them to set a reminder on their phone to write a letter every so often, then they can just open the Compassion app and write a few encouraging words to their sponsored child.

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