Sponsors Really Do Exist!

visit-indonesia Matthew never stopped smiling as the children swarmed around him and wanted to shake his hand. Even though he was not their sponsor, the children were thrilled to meet the very first sponsor to visit their child development center.

“Matthew! Matthew! Look at my picture!”

The children called out enthusiastically in Indonesian as they ran to Matthew, carrying pieces of paper in their hands to show off their artwork.

Matthew responded in English, a language they had never heard before, and smiled warmly at them, causing them to laugh.

Although the children could not understand what Matthew said, they were delighted with his presence.

Matthew is a young man from the United States who, since January 2009, has given from his heart to support one of the registered children at Sangihe Evangelical Church in Kolongan Beha, Sangihe Island.

He sponsors Mariana, a child who lives in East Indonesia on Sangihe Island, where her child development center is located.

Although their communication before Matthew’s visit was only through letters, Matthew and Mariana enjoy sharing many things as they write to one another.

They understand that mail can seem slow because it first has to be processed and sorted through our Global Ministry Center before it is sent to Mariana’s home country. Our office in Indonesia then processes the letters by dividing them according to area, then sends them to each development center.

Although Mariana and Matthew have to go through a long process to send and receive letters, they never stop writing about their day-to-day lives.

This includes sharing information about their family members or their favorite things.

Mariana wrote in one letter that she learned about Jesus Christ.

“I like to share anything that I experience with Brother Matthew because he loves to hear what I am doing every day.”

As their friendship grew, Matthew wanted to meet Mariana face-to-face and interact with her directly. Matthew took a big step: He decided to go to Indonesia and visit his sponsored child.

So along with a friend, Matthew traveled to Indonesia. In addition to meeting Mariana in person, he touched more lives than he had ever imagined. Matthew had not realized that his decision to visit Mariana would impact other children, parents and community members who at times had doubted whether their “invisible” sponsors actually existed.

Pastor Leopold Tamalawe of Sangihe Evangelical Church shared,

“People in this area did not believe that children have sponsors. They thought sponsors were just in a dream and they thought we lied to them.”

Because a sponsor had never before come to visit the Ikhtus Student Center, this belief is not surprising.

Sangihe Island is one of the remote areas of East Indonesia that can be reached only by an eight-hour boat ride or by plane, and it is not well known to foreigners. Not many people, especially from abroad, visit this island.

“It is very rare to see people from abroad come here, especially sponsors of our children.”

When Matthew arrived at the center, the children surrounded him to shake his hand and hug him. Children everywhere long for their sponsors to come and meet them personally, and as the first sponsor to visit the Ikhtus Student Center, Matthew demonstrated to the children and their families the reality of sponsors and their love for the children.

Matthew’s first opportunity to see Mariana in real life came when he and a translator picked her up from school. After meeting the school principal and asking about Mariana’s academic progress, Matthew and the translator then visited Mariana’s house. Mariana smiles as she describes her first experience with Matthew,

“I took Brother Matthew to play and took cassava that we planted behind our house for our lunch. He even liked to eat it. We ate it together.”

Matthew spent several hours with Mariana and her family, trying local dishes like cassava. He also tried pineapple, fried banana, and panada — fried local cookies filled with vegetables or meat. Matthew even went to see the sweet potato tree.

Fransin, the development center coordinator, shares,

“Matthew loved to try anything. He not made difference between Western people who has to eat Western dish with Asian people like us.”

During their short time together, Mariana and Matthew really enjoyed interacting in person. Although they could talk only through the translator, they communicated through actions such as holding hands and sharing one coconut with two straws.

They encouraged each other and promised to continue upholding one another in their daily prayers.

“Brother Matthew promised to keep praying for me, so I can reach my dream one day. He also asked me to pray for his ministry so he can help others to know Jesus more.”

Matthew’s visit was not only a special moment for Mariana, but it was also special for the other children who felt their sponsors’ love through Matthew because he was very welcoming to all the children. Fransin told us,

“After Matthew’s visitation to our development center, we can see that children and their parents realized that the invisible sponsors that they thought were a lie all this time have great love for them.

“We also got acknowledgment from local government in Sangihe because the development center impacted tourism sector in this area. Many foreign people are getting know about Sangihe Island.

“Even though we live far away from North Sulawesi capital city, but we believe a step of a sponsor has changed everything.”

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  1. Kim Edge May 13, 2011

    Wow, I wonder if this is how God feels when people don’t believe he exists, after all he sends us.

  2. JD May 12, 2011

    During our Compassion travels to Honduras last year, we heard this in each of the 4 centers that we visited. It seems very universal… to the children, we represented their sponsors “with skin on”.

    I wrote a blog post about this — how many of us have wondered before beginning to sponsor “if the children are real”. We’re skeptical, do these children exist, does my money really make a difference, is this a real child I’m writing to? We don’t often stop to consider that the children ask the same questions, especially the many children who write to their sponsors and never receive a response. They see a sponsor visit, and they now believe in sponsors… but then are left to wonder why their sponsor, a real human with flesh, does not write. Heartbreaking.

    1. Kees Boer May 13, 2011

      I think the reason many sponsors don’t write to their children is very easy….. If they see a presentation where they are told what $38/month will get for the children and then they are encouraged to give the $38/month and sponsor one of the children, we can’t be surprised if that’s what they do. They did what we asked them to do…. That’s why it is so important to share about the relationship through prayer and letters before a sponsor “signs” up. It becomes very difficult and probably expensive to educate them afterwards…. They might never get it. After all, they never signed up or even agreed to write letters or to pray for the child. They signed up to support the child. This is why I don’t even talk about the money when I talk about the sponsorship. The money to me is like the gasoline in a car. It’s not the purpose of the car, but it is essential. Or like the liver in our body. But when I describe a person, I don’t go talking about their liver….For many sponsors, the sponsorship is primarily a financial commitment, for the children it is primarily a relationship. Hence there can be a disconnect…. It’s like two people stepping into a marriage with totally different expectations.

  3. Mike Stephens May 12, 2011

    I agree with Alicia, I played soccer in Tanzania with Bushiri and it is AMAZING. But I can see if I was on the other end as a sponsored child how I could easily live my life as if my sponsor didn’t exist if I had never met them in person. That is why I am going to give Chamelia a “high five” in a little over a month in Indonesia!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! wooooohoooooooooooooooooo!

    But I think more importantly for myself I need to stop living my life as if God doesn’t exist, because He does! And I will have to stand in front of Him when I die :0

  4. Alicia May 12, 2011

    I visited my child in Uganda, and it was absolutely amazing. I picked her up and carried her around (she was 6 at the time), and we played together the whole day and had a blast. The best of it is, I know she KNOWS who I am. I recommend taking a sponsor tour. LIFE CHANGING

  5. Kees Boer May 12, 2011

    When I visit a Compassion center in Bolivia, the children are so glad to see and to meet a sponsor…. Yes, then a sponsor really does exist….. I remember when I was visiting one of the projects where I also sponsor a girl in. The children would run to me shouting: “Padrino, padrino…..” (which means godfather, but it is how the children call the sponsor….) But my girl wanted nothing of this. She got with the children later on and rebuked them: “Don’t call him padrino! He’s not your padrino…. He’s my padrino!” Some of them took that to heart…. But yes, if you visit the centers, many times the kids are all over you. I’ve been to centers where I had to stop, because they were crowding around me to the point where if I would have done another step, I would have fallen over them…. which is probably not a good idea, having a big 6.5 man fall on top of the children.

  6. Danae May 12, 2011

    I love this!! That’s amazing. I haven’t visited my Compassion children, but I have visited another sponsored child and it was an amazing experience.

  7. Jill Foley May 12, 2011

    Another great story showing us the special relationship that develops – I am loving these stories!

    We noticed this in Peru, too…and I’m sure others notice this when they visit Compassion projects. It doesn’t matter to the kids that you aren’t acutally their sponsor – you represent their sponsor and they are so excited you would come to their project.

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