Dignity and Diversity: Honoring the Children You’re Helping

The Latin term imago Dei is one that I first heard in a college Bible study. I remember sprawling on the floor of our dorm lobby, rolling the funny words around in my mouth.

Imago Dei. Image of God.

That phrase has meant a lot to me over the years. It has helped me understand my own value as a child created in the image of God, and more recently, it has helped me to understand more deeply the idea of dignity. Because truly believing that every human, every man, woman and child from every nation, is created in the image of God shifts how we think about dignity. Value of life.

Eyuael is pictured here at the project with a large group of other boys. They are all wearing the project's uniform, light blue pants and a purple sweater. Eyuael is smiling at the camera.

It shapes how I think about the children I sponsor, too. Denys, Bilha, Vitoria, Nardos and Natacha were all created in the image of God. What does that mean for me, as their sponsor?

For an organization that works in 25 developing countries, each with its own cultures, languages and customs, it is so important to see the imago Dei in every church and child we work with. Simply put, we must always make sure we are honoring a child’s dignity.

Can you write a blog about child dignity?

When Compassion’s blog editor, Willow, asked me that question, of course I said yes. But then, immediately, I knew what I needed to write about. And I didn’t want to. I didn’t want to share a moment with you that I’m not proud of.

But I hope you can learn from my mistakes as you think about what child dignity means for you.

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When I went on my first Compassion trip, I kept having to pinch myself. Was this really my life? Getting to travel and meet Compassion-assisted families and share their stories?

Girl wearing a white shirt and a denim skirt. She is carrying a large silver bowl of water on her head and is standing in front of her home.

On every trip I reveled in experiencing new cultures and playing with adorable kids. Everywhere I went I had a camera in my hand (yes, that was back when I used a camera and not my phone), and my notebook in my pocket.

I took selfies with tons of kids. Kids that I connected with. But also — kids that were just cute. That’s what happened on a trip to Bolivia. I smiled eagerly at a little girl, pointed to my camera, and then to her. I ignored her confused look and started snapping away. Later, I looked at those photos, and saw a look of … could that be fear on her face?

And as I stared at that photo, I felt a deep, deep conviction. I was treating those children as props.

It makes my stomach hurt even now to think about. And from that moment on, I made a promise, both to myself and to the hundreds of children I would meet on future trips.

I would not take a single picture with another child whose name and story I did not know. While there’s nothing wrong with taking photos to help remember a one-of-a-kind trip to meet sponsored children, my conviction had to do more with my intentions and motivations. It is not my job as a writer at Compassion to take pictures with cute kids from around the world. It is my job to listen to their stories, and gently carry those stories home to share with those who need to hear them.

But even more than that, it is not my job as a Compassion sponsor to “rescue” poor little children. It is my job to help the helpers, to come alongside their parents, tutors and Compassion staff who are doing the hard work.

Jose is wearing a blue shirt. He is sitting at a desk and is working on his homework. His grandmother, wearing a red shirt, is sitting next to him and is helping.

It is not my job to have a rich, shared correspondence with a child in poverty. It is my job to write letters of hope and encouragement even if the only response I get is the same picture of a hand-drawn ball 10 times in a row.

It is not my job to be my sponsored child’s family. Most Compassion-assisted children have loving, devoted caregivers, siblings, aunts and uncles. My job is to be a part of their family, a faraway friend who is helping to ease the burden.

It is a joy and a privilege to be a part of my Compassion children’s lives. And my life is so much richer having them in my life.

They are not props. They are real children, with real stories and real families.

Two young girls, sisters, wearing traditional Guatemalan clothing of skirts and floral blouses. They are smiling.
Marina and Bilha are sisters in Guatemala. Writer Brandy Lovelace, who sponsors Bilha, spent an unforgettable and meaningful day with the sisters during a sponsor trip.

Helping the Helpers

In an honest moment, I think at times I have elevated my role in my sponsored children’s lives. I have lost sight of the fact that their lives are FILLED with people created in the image of God, who are called to love and serve in ways that are different than mine.

As a sponsor, I am helping to equip local, Indigenous churches, run by people who live in the communities and know the unique needs of the people who live there. These are people who know what dignity looks like in their cultures. Who understand the language of dignity among the children they serve.

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    Sarah Samsel September 6, 2020

    This is such a helpful post. Thank you and thank you for your willingness to be transparent. ❤❤

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    Mike Reiner September 4, 2020

    Thank you for another meaningful message, Brandy! On our trip to Uganda, our leaders shared this advice with us from the start–children are not props for photos, but people with powerful stories. Such a simple concept, but so easy to overlook when you don’t look beyond their smiles and take time to connect with them. I journaled about the children I met who asked to be photographed with me. Now when I show those pictures, I am able to share their stories and inspire others to become sponsors themselves.

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      Taryn September 8, 2020

      Hello Mike, thank you for the impact you made on all those children you got to visit in Uganda! We appreciate the time and care you put into remembering each child’s powerful story. 💙💙~Taryn

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    Sherry Oliveri September 4, 2020

    This article is inspiring – and perhaps one that all new sponsors should read. As a sponsor for over 25 years, I have never really heard this unique outlook on sponsoring. It needs to be heard, because all too often sponsors simply do not not what their role will be. It is about much more than money, and much less than money. Thank you!

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    Anne Thiongo September 4, 2020

    Wow! Such an inspiring story. What really stood out for me is that as a sponsor, we should never elevate ourselves in the lives of the children/beneficiaries. We are just vessels used by God to channel His blessings. May God help us to see the bigger picture🙏

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    Katie Koranda September 3, 2020

    Thank you for writing this post — and with such vulnerability! I think a big organization like Compassion using its influence to have this conversation is so important for creating change in the nonprofit sector.

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